M.I.A.

My Goodness, I’ve been away for a while! To think, one of my last blog posts was of my 2nd Big Chop and now my hair is less than an inch long. YES! I cut it all off! 😀

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There has been a few changes in my life over the past 2 months. Firstly like I mentioned, I completely cut off my hair. I woke up one morning and was fed up with the fact that my wash and go from the day before was no longer existent. I got my dads clippers and cut it all to a level 2. Of course I recorded myself doing it. You can see how my dad gave me a helping hand too.

The reactions have been quite interesting to say the least. A lot of the elders have given me “the look” when I tell them I cut if off because I just wanted to. They clearly don’t approve, but I couldn’t care less. As long as I am happy with it then I am content. The best reaction I received was from my Grandma who is currently living back home in Tanzania.

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I have received messages from distant relatives basically making sure that I wasn’t going crazy. That’s what a lot of people think for some reason, if you have spent a few years looking after your hair properly and you cut it all off then there definitely must be something wrong with you! This has made me realise how materialistic hair really is. People put way too much importance into a appearance. I have come to the point in my life where I would rather people respect me for the things that I say and do rather than the way I look. Yes, hair for a black person is important. I have already made my statement and have helped people with their own natural hair.

I love the way I look. I love my natural hair.

Now it is time to focus on the inside. I know I have a great mind, I just to exercise it more. I need to be able to articulate what is on my mind. Not just speak it, but also express it.

Not many people know that I have loved to draw my whole life. In the past few months I have decided to take it seriously. I have created Mother N Diaspora, a brand that focuses on art inspired by the Motherland and her Children. I will do another blog post on this soon.

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Until next time 🙂

Big Chop #2!

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“OMG No! You Had Such Nice Hair!”

Yes, yes I did, but my hair isn’t all I’ve got. I feel as though others were more attached to my hair than I was. Which is understandable, I did build my social media platforms around my hair. But at the same time I want to be known for more than just my hair. I guess this is a statement of just that.

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The only people who weren’t shocked were my family. Probably because I have cut my hair before, and I constantly change it. Although my 13-year-old brother wasn’t all too impressed, mainly because he has a high top and we look waaay too alike right now. Like him, many people told me that if they had hair like mine they would keep it. And yes, quite a few have asked to have the hair I cut (mainly as a joke… I hope).

The nicest reactions I received was from the students I work with. One told me I reminded her of the models on Americas Next Top Model. Another said that he loved my afro, and he loves my hair now, he found it weird that I could suite so many different styles. I’ve also had some funny reactions and some really over the top reactions.

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It’s Just Hair. It’ll Grow Back

It’s funny how people get so protective over a females hair, especially men. First it was that annoying idea that a woman should have long straight hair, no matter what race. Luckily for me, I am surrounded by a lot of people who had grown out of that. But I did start to feel as though if you don’t have long straight hair then you better have big, long voluptuous curly hair. There is always going to be an expectation. I like to live against expectations. Especially working at a college where there are very few black girls. Thankfully I have managed to encourage them to embrace their hair more and show it off to the world. But at the same time some of them are fixated on length. I hope that my chop lets them know that as long as you are confident in yourself, you could be bald and still beautiful.

A question I have been asked a few times is what my boyfriend thinks about it. I have asked him what he thinks about it and he says he likes it. He originally thought I was going to cut it all off at one level, which he wasn’t too happy about. This put me off doing it for a while. But when I showed him the images of the style I was going for he was rather relieved lol. He especially likes the fact that my hair no longer goes in his face when we lie down.

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The cut has made me realise the extent of which human beings are scared to step out of our comfort zones, for some it can be to the point that when they see another person who has made a big change, they either question why on earth they  would even think about doing it, admire the fact that they took the leap and did it, or just pretend they didn’t see it at all.

Am I brave? No. I just have different things in life that I am scared to try. Hair isn’t one of them.

How I’m Dealing With It… Or Trying To

I can’t lie though, it has been a week since the big chop and I’m finding it quite hard to get used to my short curls. I have washed my hair at least 8 times since cutting it, just to refresh my wash and goes. Having tried using the EcoStyler Olive Oil Gel on one wash and go and Aunt Jackie’s Curl La La on another,  I have realised that the curl enhancer gives my curls a more natural look and allows me to refresh them with a few sprays of water, whereas the gel doesn’t allow for much movement. Once the curls are set, they are set and the only way to liven them up again is by washing them out and starting from scratch.

Snapchat--1563583446277887494As I always say, if your mind is telling you to get it, it means it will suite you. That’s how I judge whether or not I should get a certain hairstyle, piercing or dress. If it comes into my mind at random times in a period of a couple of months then I know that it is right for me. I haven’t got any plans in terms of what I am going to do with my hair now. Apart from enjoy the journey. I may let it grow and not visit the barber again or I may keep getting it retouched. I may even cut it all at one level and let it grow from there. Only time will tell.

Why Curlvolution Let Me Down

Hey Guys!! For those of you who have seen my instagram post, this isn’t going to be new for you. But for those who haven’t, let me explain why Curlvolution let me down.

Now, I went to the hair event with the mindset that I was going to see a few stalls, probably hear people talk about their hair journeys and just meet up with blogger friends. And yes, that did happen. But I was pleasantly surprised by the seminars that were going on, especially Laila (Fusion of Cultures) and Pelumi’s (Care for your Hair) talk on blogging. I was even more pleased when they gave out ORS goodie bags at the end.

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Discussions held by the panel was also very interesting. The panel consisted of Connie Jackson from Fashion FairKluermoi a Pro MUA & Beauty Blogger, Bianca Miller from the Apprentice, Felicia Leatherwood a Celebrity Natural Hair Stylist and Janelle Stewart a Natural Hair Blogger. They spoke on a number of different topics, some included, black businesses, brain washing of black people and inequality in the beauty & fashion market.

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Needless to say it was just a very positive day.

As we headed out they were giving everyone goodie bags *WINNING* It was at this moment that the positivity and good vibes that the event gave me came to an end. This was the main product in the goodie bag…

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Now if you want to go and straighten your hair, by all means go and do it. I have nothing against free will. But my problem lies in the fact that Curlvolution claims to be the “UK’s largest annual natural hair and beauty show“. Everything around the event was promoting being proud of who you are and embracing yourself, but yet their last message was effectively, “Yeah you can love your hair, but you’ll love it even more for up to 6 weeks when it’s straight and manageable.” -_- Like what the ..??? What angered me the most, was that there was so many women in there that had recently big chopped or weren’t completely comfortable in themselves, who could easily fall back into the relaxing route just by using this product. Yes, I see it as a gate way drug.

“Texture Manageability”

Just those words alone boils my blood. As if to say curly, kinky and coily hair textures are unmanageable. I know people who have tried it themselves, and some may think I am taking this too far, but it has to be said. I haven’t even looked into the chemicals used, it’s the packaging that annoys me.

“This System’s Inner-Active Conditioning links with your hair’s own natural proteins to improve manageability giving you unparalleled touchable softness and movement, with long lasting detangling.”

Just look at this paragraph. What words stand out to you? I’ll tell you what stands out to me, “improve manageability”, “touchable softness” and “long lasting detangling”. What these words tell me is that my hair is unmanageable, dry and also this product with loosen my curls, because that is the only way it will have long lasting detangling.

Do you think I am reading into this too much?

Have you used this product yourself? If so how was it for you?

If not, do you ever plan on using it?